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Senior Sex: Do You Need A Reboot?

Senior Sex: Do you need a reboot?

It’s time to shine if you’re part of the senior generation! The kids have left the nest and you’ve joined an exciting new group: 60 is the new 40, 80 the new 60. Health-conscious men and women are leading strong, vibrant lifestyles well into their 80s and 90s. You are showing younger generations the meaning of living life with vigor, style and passion.

One area that seems to need a jump-start is sex for seniors. It’s doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that sex after a certain age is different for both men and women. For women, the biological clock has moved past baby-making to hot flashes, vaginal dryness and lack of sleep. We ride a wave of hormone levels that mirror a fidget spinner! But there is good news for rebooting and improving intimacy to get back on track in the bedroom.

Where did my sex drive go?

A July 2019, WebMD article notes that older women are having less sex due to various factors, including body image, self-confidence, stress and mood swings. Not all women see a change in their sex drive after menopause, but for those who do, there may be health issues contributing to a lack of desire. Talk with your doctor to rule out any physical or psychological problems. Some issues may be related to:

  • Bladder control problems
  • Sleep disturbance
  • Depression or anxiety
  • Medications

Are there benefits of sex as you age?

Yes, as you age you have more self-confidence and self-assurance which can boost your ability to enjoy higher levels of intimacy. According to the Society of OB/Gyns of Canada there are many benefits of sexual activity as we age:

  • Sex burns fat and boosts your immune system
  • Sex causes the brain to release endorphins – the body’s natural pain relievers
  • Sex relieves stress and makes you feel good
  • Sexually active people have higher levels of naturally produced sex hormones – in other words use it or lose it
  • Helps you sleep by easing the body and lulling the mind and spirit

What’s the good news?

The National Institute of Health (NIH) notes that some older couples find more satisfaction in their sex lives than when they were younger. Seniors are enjoying a more personal relationship with their partners due in part to:

  • Fewer distractions
  • More time
  • More privacy
  • Greater intimacy with a lifelong partner
  • No pregnancy worries

Do you still need to practice safe sex?

The NIH website notes that age does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. Older people who are sexually active may be at risk for diseases. Although many older people might feel uncomfortable talking about their sex life, it’s important to educate yourself on safe sex practices. A first step is talking with your doctor about any risks or concerns you may have regarding STDs.

How to get your love life in motion

It’s important to have a positive attitude and an open mind when it comes to discussing your needs with your partner. Being sexually active contributes to improved physical and emotional health, our daily mood, attitude and outlook on life.

This is your time for a rewarding intimate journey to keep you healthy, happy and youthful for years to come!



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The Information on this site is intended to raise awareness and understanding of specific health issues. It should not be used for diagnosis or a substitute for health care by your physician.


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